So, I’m sitting in the backyard while Aiden is playing and I’m doing what every one is guilty of at one time or another. I’m thinking of what all I would do and buy if we could afford it. I would replace the small, used (not to mention free) swing set that is falling apart with a huge brand new one with all the bells & whistles! I would get rid of the little playhouse (also given to us) and instead build a big fort for him. For his birthday last year, we got him a little cedar sand box. I wish we had sprung for the bigger plastic one with the lid. Our pool is huge but it’s above ground. It’s partially surrounded by a big wooden deck but the paint is chipping off and pieces need to be replaced. Oh yes, I have lots of plans for the backyard. The only thing preventing it is money. I started to get embarrassed thinking about how our yard must look to others. I felt guilty that we can’t give him everything he wants. I looked over at Aiden swinging so high that the legs of the swing set are coming off the ground. As if he read my mind he says…..
Aiden: “Momma, I love my backyard.”
Me: “But wouldn’t you want a bigger swing set?”
Aiden: “Nope, mine’s big now”.
Me: “What about the sandbox? The side is cracked and it’s so small.”
He stood up and pointed at it saying, “But all of my toys fit in it. And my dog”.
Me: “And the pool? You like that, too”?
Aiden: “The pool is my favorite, momma!”
It was way past his nap time so after a little arguing he finally came inside. As if our little conversation wasn’t enough to fill my momma heart he grabbed my hand and thanked me for playing with him in the backyard. We all get caught up trying to keep up with the neighbors. Thinking somehow that you are not as good of a parent, a provider, as someone else because of the material things their children have. It seems silly but if you’re honest with yourself, you’ve done it too. We need to remember that kids don’t care about quantity. They want quality, as in quality time. When you are with your children, really be with them. Play with them. Interact. Use your imagination. It means the world to them. Sometimes, I need to be reminded of that. And when I do, Aiden is always there to remind me.
Just another lesson taught to me by my toddler.